A Different Look
· Lydia Coulter
Day collars are worn as a more discreet symbol of a dynamic. Whether you're self-collared or collared by another, the item carries weight. If you...
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My Biggest Mistake with Wax Play in a BDSM Scene
· Lydia Coulter
I'm writing this in the knowledge that this isn't the worst thing that's ever happened in a BDSM scene, but at the same time, I...
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When a BDSM Dynamic Feels Like This
· Lydia Coulter
There's a precise sort of recognition when you meet a person whose desires are the mirror image of yours. I'm not talking about the stuff...
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When Your Body Changes, What Happens to Your Sexual Identity?
· Lydia Coulter
When you have a baby, you’re pretty much told that your relationship with your body will change and “you’ll learn to love it.” It’s like...
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Planning Scenes vs Freestyling
· Lydia Coulter
There are two camps when it comes to scenes - planners, and freestylers. People who plan, and people who go with the flow. It’s not...
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How to find a Kinky Play Partner
· Lydia Coulter
I often find my DMs frequented by the question “How do I find a kinky play partner as an adult?” The default answer that people...
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Finding Your Dominant Style
· Lydia Coulter
Your ‘Dominant style’ makes it sound like you’re supposed to figure it out before you start, or stick with whatever you pick. And whatever label...
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Reconnecting with my Domme identity after having a baby
· Lydia Coulter
When I claimed my Domme identity, something inside of me shifted. It changed me in ways that extended far beyond anything that happened in private,...
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Please don't call me Ma'am
· Lydia Coulter
As somebody chronically online talking about bondage and BDSM, you can imagine I am the recipient of many DMs. Some questionable in nature, and some...
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I didn't set out to be dominant
· Lydia Coulter
I know what you’re thinking - who does? Actually, the men that have watched 50 Shades of Grey and think that man = dominant and...
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What if I’m not kinky enough?
· Lydia Coulter
I may be about to ruffle some feathers, but I’ve always disliked the phrase “vanilla kinky.” It tends to appear in conversations in a slightly...
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Do You Have to Play at a Kink Party?
· Lydia Coulter
One of the biggest misconceptions about kink parties is that you have to play. In fact, many events actively encourage the opposite. You should not...
