Desire & Erotic Identity - Online Event

£15.00
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Understanding what turns us on, and why

Sunday 26th April - 7pm GMT. Duration approx. 90 minutes with Q&A.

Most of us can describe what we're drawn to long before we can explain why. A particular dynamic, a fantasy that keeps returning, a role that feels oddly like home. These patterns rarely arrive by accident. They are shaped by what we have lived through, what we have absorbed, and what we have given ourselves permission to want.

This session is a conversation about what sits underneath all of that. Kilter founder Lydia Coulter and sexologist and kink educator Georgie Blewett spend an hour thinking carefully about desire: where it comes from, how it shifts over time, and why certain currents pull harder than others.

We'll talk about the psychology of dominance and submission, and why power turns up so often in our erotic lives. We'll look at how erotic identity forms and changes, and at the way shame, curiosity, and permission tend to sit closer together than we might expect.

This isn't a session about technique or getting it right. This is a space to understand the internal architecture beneath what turns you on, and to take your own desire seriously as something worth examining.

You'll leave with a clearer read of your own preferences, some language for things that may have felt wordless until now, and a more honest sense of how your desire has been shaped, and where it might be asking to go next.

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This event will be hosted online with dial in details sent 3 hours before the event via email to the same email address used to purchase a ticket.

Please have a journal or something to write on with you.

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About Georgie

Georgie Blewett, MSc is a somatic sex and relationship practitioner, specialising in desire and arousal, dissociation during sex, and kink and BDSM.

She is dedicated to helping clients deepen their understanding of themselves and feel grounded in safety and authentic connection. She believes that developing a sense of self through tools of consent, boundaries, and core values is the key to fulfilling relationships with partners and the self.

She received the Research Methods in Psychology Award 2022 from the University of St Andrews for being top of her class, with her dissertation entitled Stigma, Identification and Wellbeing in the BDSM Community: testing the rejection-identification model in kink practitioners (subject to journal publication).

She has also sat on numerous kink and BDSM research teams including KISS (Kink Identification Scale Survey) and TASHRA (The Alternative Sexualities Health Research Alliance). Most importantly, she has been a part of the BDSM community as long as she can remember

About the Series

Much of what exists around kink focuses on technique or performance. What’s often missing is a deeper understanding of why we want what we want, how those desires take shape, and how they can be expressed in a way that feels considered and connected.

These sessions are designed to slow that down. To look at desire, power, fantasy, and connection through a more thoughtful lens, bringing together psychological insight, embodied awareness, and real conversation.

It’s about understanding yourself more clearly, and creating space for a kind of intimacy that feels intentional and grounded.